Please Love Your Family….


So yesterday was Samurai’s birthday, and not too long ago was HotRod’s birthday. They are 16 days apart, give or take a few years. 🙂  Anyway, both of them wanted to go to the lake today to celebrate. Sure, why not? Samurai’s mom went with us, as well as Hopefully Ariel. The lake we like to go to is around 45 minutes from town, but it’s smaller, a bit nicer and not crowded. At most there’s maybe 4 families enjoying the lake at any given time. Plus, it’s got a low grade angle in the water, so you can go out quite a ways before you get in too deep. This allows for more “playing room” for the kids to splash around.

Anyway, we had been there a couple of hours, and hunger starts to set in, so Samurai’s and his mom get out to make sandwiches. This is typically something I do, but I was busy trying to get Diva to acclimate to her Body Glove full body floaty suit… she has decided that she is NOT comfortable when she can’t reach the bottom, NOR does she like water in her face, NOR does she want to wear the suit, BUT she WILL be in the water up to at least her armpits. I figured the least hated option was to fuss with her wearing the suit. She had a death grip on me for a while, and cried and whined, but over time she learned to trust herself and things got better. HotRod can swim, and Bird has just learned the basics, but both of them know to stay in the shallows. Diva thinks she can go wherever-she-pleases, Thank-You-Very-Much…. Thus the need to wear the suit.

Well, I’m standing in water up to MY armpits, so I can hold Diva floating at eye level. (This keeps my arms from tiring, lol.) About 6 feet closer to shore from me was HotRod in an orange floating chair, and about 5 feet from him was Bird with his goggles on the top of his head. (WHY he was wearing goggles in a muddy lake, I’ll never know.) Hopefully Ariel was about 10 feet away in deeper water. Bird slips on a muddy spot and goes under. This surprises him, and he reaches out to grab something, but water is notoriously fluid…and he goes under a second time. By this time, HotRod had thrown off his orange floaty, Ariel swims over, and they both get to Bird, help him up, he’s coughing and sputtering. When we all realize that he will be fine, HotRod goes to look for his floating chair and saw the wind is pushing it out to the middle of the lake. Ariel and Samurai take off swimming after it, but a gust of wind was toying with them and kept it just out of their reach. They decide to let it go and start swimming back. Ariel gets winded and flips to her back to float for a minute to catch her breath. Samural is swimming back, and his leg cramps up. He starts screaming, thrashing about to stay afloat, and the only thing I can do is to holler at him to come closer… I was in armpit-deep water holding Diva-in-her-suit… HotRod grabs another float and trudges out for me to toss it to him, but the mud/clay/rock bottom makes your feet sink and stick. Ariel is floating, kicking her feet, and making it back in slowly, but surely. Samurai starts to panic just a bit, because when you can’t feel your leg, and you’re trying to swim, it’s not a good thing. Just in time, HotRod gets to me, and I pass the float to Samurai, who is finally able to calm down. I pull him in close to me, and Diva lays her hand on his cheek and starts rubbing his beard. I check on Ariel, and she has made it to shore and was walking back, but she looked very winded and tired. Samurai had aspirated some water though, and wasn’t doing so well. We get him to shore, get him to cough, and get him to sit in a chair. Ariel is there sitting in a chair as well. Please don’t call me a “hero”, I simply was the closest person and did what any other non-swimmer could have done.

Samurai’s mom decides to finish lunch for everyone, and after the kids eat and swim for 10 more minutes, we decide to pack up to leave. Samurai and Ariel were not doing so well. To be honest, Samurai’s mom and I were not doing so well either. The stress and fears were so very scary and so hard to process, even now, after it’s all over with. To just stand there, not being able to do anything…. watching Ariel float, knowing she is tired, and knowing that if she decided she couldn’t kick anymore, she could drown… and watching Samurai yelling for help…thrashing in the water because his muscle cramped up and he couldn’t swim properly…. and before that even, with Bird just out of reach, dunking under the water…. Damn, I felt so helpless. In a matter of minutes, I was presented with the very real reality of loosing three people that I simply just refuse to let go. And yet, before it got worse, all was saved. Ariel floated long enough to get her strength and breath to get out, and Samurai got a float to lean on while I pulled him to more shallow waters. Samurai’s Mom had already pulled HotRod and Bird out of the lake.

Those that know me know I’m not a Bible-thumping Christian. I believe the Bible has lots of good advice in there, and I believe that there is a God who loves us. I’m more of a spiritual person, and I believe that your own walk with God is exactly that…your own. My own chosen path is Taoism. But in the face of a potential crisis like what we went through makes me more thankful for what’s in my life. Not that I didn’t appreciate it before, and definitely not that the people in my life didn’t know I appreciated it either. We are a thankful and loving bunch who strive to not take each other for granted, and we teach manners and respect at the center of it all. I’m going to be so bold as to say that we try very hard to live our lives so we do not NEED a “wake-up call” like this. Nevertheless, as it is with any fallible human, we will experience them from time to time.

It doesn’t matter what your chosen faith is, where you go to church, what kind of car you drive, if you live in the Hamptons or the suburbs, or below the national poverty level. IT DOESN’T MATTER. It simply doesn’t matter what you have in your life to make it better or worse. What matters is WHO is in your life. Your family. Your kids. Your parents. Your siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, best friends, geez the list goes on and on. THEY are your life’s blessings. THEY are what make life worth living. THEY are the reason you do what you do day in and day out. If you don’t have someone like this, keep looking… Don’t give up! If you do have someone, cherish them. Don’t let a day go by that they wonder if you care. If you have someone that treats you badly, hurts you or others, or just isn’t right for you, GET RID OF THEM. Fill your life with love and as much happiness as you can. I know you’ll probably argue “well I can’t because…” and it’s your life. I’m not the one living it. All I know is that after almost loosing my son, my husband, and a sister, I’m thankful that my blessings are still here for me to love.

Please…. If you forget to do everything else this weekend, hug, kiss, call, write, text, email, or whatever to all of your blessings and let them know you’re thinking of them. It doesn’t have to be mushy, just a simple statement that lets them know you care.

Please, just love your family, whoever you call family. It doesn’t matter. Just love them.

Love You Big As Sky…..


2 thoughts on “Please Love Your Family….

  1. I hope you don’t mind me commenting on this…I worry that I will ramble and make a
    long comment here. ^^’

    Before everything happened, I just want to say that I enjoyed getting to go with y’all. You made me feel welcomed and like family yesterday (you always do but it was…it was nice to go somewhere and spend time with y’all ^_^), and I was glad that we got to all do something together.

    -I thought what you were doing with Diva was really amazing by the way! I know you are a non swimmer but you still get in the water and you have helped all three kids with this and I think that’s really amazing honestly. ^_^

    -*sends hugs to you* I’m glad that you wrote about this on your blog. I know this event was scary and stressful for you. For everyone.

    -I’ve thought about writing about it (this event) today but I’m not sure honestly. ^^’
    Things are hitting a little harder for me today, but I think it’s because I was so out of it yesterday…

    -*Hugs* You did help yesterday though (I know it didn’t feel like it)…you got everyone back safely and that’s really important. *sends extra hugs*

    -Y’all are very aware about making sure you don’t take anything in your lives for granted, and you always express your love to one another and that’s always important. I do understand though, even when you try your best to make sure you don’t take people or things in life for granted, that something like this still deliver a pretty hefty punch and give us a form of a wake up call anyway. *Hugs*

    -But you’re right, it doesn’t matter what things are in our lives (our finances, our materials, our choices in religion, etc.), what matters is who is in your life and everyone who loves you (and who you love)!

    -*Hugs* I am counting my blessings as well because I almost lost people who I love and consider family yesterday. *Hugs again* I’m very thankful and grateful that we’re all okay.

    -I know I say it a lot but I want to say it again. I love you. I love y’all. I’m very grateful that I have y’all in my life and if y’all ever need me, I will always do my best to help and be there. Always. *Hugs* Please know that. ❤


  2. Thanks for the wonderful comments, Ariel. You are so sweet to say these things. I’m just glad that you are ok as well, because we could have lost you too.

    I get in the water to make sure that my kids are not afraid of the water, and to make sure that they know how to swim (with a qualified swimmer as a teacher, not by me, lol). I don’t want any of them to fear the water like I do. I don’t want them to fear anything, like I do. So far, so good. 🙂

    I posted the events on my blog to make sure that I got it all out of my system. I’ve never been one to keep a journal, but some things I need to write down. Honestly I needed to know that this was truly no-one’s fault. When an accident happens, even if it all works out in the end, Human nature makes you want to blame someone for what happened. I KNOW in my heart that it was no-one’s fault…. it was a sequence of events that started badly, but thankfully ended in the positive. But my head, my judgementally-inclined brain, would process and reprocess the events until it made a determination that no-one was at fault, or someone was to blame… and I KNEW that if I didn’t get it all out, I would ultimately end up blaming myself…. because I should have done “this” or “that” differently. Which would set me way back in my current progress of mental clarity.

    Anyway, thanks for the sweetness that you write, and for who you are. Life is good cause you’re in it. 🙂 Isn’t it funny how saying what you mean sounds so cheesy? haha


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